KRISTIN NEMZER'S BLOG
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25 Years of Therapy: The Therapeutic Relationship Over Time
I have been working with clients as a therapist for 25 years. I recently worked with a client that I hadn’t seen in several years and we realized that we first met 18 years ago! I have been connected to this client as they have gone through so many changes and...
The Attitude of Gratitude: Cleaning Up Your Thoughts
Our culture seems to be amazingly proficient at teaching us to be dissatisfied with who we are and what we have. In the spirit of wanting us to spend more money in order to continue to fuel growth in our economy, a constant feeling of lack is needed. We are bombarded...
The Wisdom of the “Uh Oh” Feeling
One concept that I loved teaching when I used to teach self-defense many years ago was the “uh oh” feeling. We all know the feeling when something doesn’t feel quite right and our intuition says “uh oh.” When teaching self-defense we always taught that this intuitive...
Resentment as a Form of Envy
Take a moment to give some thought to a resentment that you have felt, whether you currently feel it in a relationship or whether you have felt it in the past. What caused the resentment? What did it feel like? Let me give an example from clients I have worked with in...
Retiring the Evil Eye
I grew up in New York and I lived in New York City before moving West in my twenties. As a child I was literally taught how to glare at people to let them know that they couldn’t take advantage of me. My family called it the “evil eye.” I was taught that if I smiled...
Empowering Relationships
Power dynamics in relationships are endlessly fascinating to me. Think of someone in your life who triggers you and leaves you feeling “less than” when you are in their presence. Now think of someone in your life who listens to you and leaves you feeling seen and...
To the Darkness on the Winter Solstice
On this darkest day of the year, I feel compelled to write. I haven’t sent out a newsletter in over a year. I have been riding the rollercoaster of hope and despair as we navigate our way through this pandemic and through this time of divisiveness in our country and...
Trust in the Time of COVID
Anxiety is at an all-time high in our country and in our world. The reports about mental health are just as overwhelming as the reports about the physical devastation that can be caused by the COVID-19 virus. Having an invisible virus that could harm you potentially...
This is Getting on My Nerves: Polyvagal Theory and You
Does your mood ever change suddenly for reasons that you can’t explain? Do you sometimes suddenly feel anxious or suddenly feel exhausted? I can say yes to both of these questions and most likely you can, too. I just spent four inspiring days at Kripalu in the...
Why I Prefer Longer Therapy Sessions
I have worked as a therapist for 20 years and I have done things differently than most therapists for the majority of that time. I was taught in graduate school to recommend to every client that we meet weekly for a 50-minute session. I remember looking around the...
Therapy With Kristin
My goal as a therapist is to help each of my clients feel more empowered, balanced, and whole in their lives. Achieving this allows each client to uncover his or her unique path toward leading a fulfilled and meaningful life. Seeing my clients achieve and embrace a life of being at ease is a gift I receive nearly every day. 
Kristin Nemzer
LMFT