KRISTIN NEMZER'S BLOG

Vows: False Promises or Sacred Wisdom? What are vows and what role to they play in our marriages? I recently read an article by a couple’s therapist who said that vows are false promises and set us up for disappointment later in marriage. I was stunned. I couldn’t...

Deepening Your Connection with Your HeartI have been thinking a lot about what lies within me during these darker months of the year. This time of year feels less spacious to me because the days are so short and because the chill in the air...

Saying NoCan you say no when you mean no? Can you be honest about your opinion or feeling when asked? If not then you might be suffering from a condition called “people-pleaser syndrome” (PPS). If you suffer from PPS you might be liked by many...

Loyalty Versus Discernment in RelationshipsBoundaries are tricky to navigate in any relationship. In an ideal world, we wouldn’t need to have our defenses up in our relationships at all. Unfortunately, this is not an ideal world. Although there are people with whom...

Living On MauiI am now living on Maui! My family and I moved to Maui last month for a school-year-long family adventure. Although we all still consider Santa Cruz our home, we decided that the timing was right to shake things up a little bit in...

Plans vs. FlowI have learned a lot about myself in the last 7 months of living in Hawaii. One thing I have learned is that my New Yorker roots run deep. I grew up just outside of Manhattan and I was trained to plan things far in advance because...

Sessions via Skype/FaceTime/PhoneOver the last few years I have been conducting more and more sessions via Skype, FaceTime, and phone. Most of my new clients are referrals from other healers or from my existing clients. They refer people to me...

Hot/Cold RelationshipsHave you ever been in a relationship that at times seems to nurture you and at times seems to leave you wanting? Hot/cold. Push/pull. On-again/off-again. Most of us have struggled with a relationship with someone who would...

Listen to Your Body's WhisperI have been working as a therapist with clients at least 3 days per week for the last 17 years. My hope is that 17 years will seem like a short time by the end of my career as a therapist, but from where I sit now...