KRISTIN NEMZER'S BLOG

Saying NoCan you say no when you mean no? Can you be honest about your opinion or feeling when asked? If not then you might be suffering from a condition called “people-pleaser syndrome” (PPS). If you suffer from PPS you might be liked by many...

Loyalty Versus Discernment in RelationshipsBoundaries are tricky to navigate in any relationship. In an ideal world, we wouldn’t need to have our defenses up in our relationships at all. Unfortunately, this is not an ideal world. Although there are people with whom...

Living On MauiI am now living on Maui! My family and I moved to Maui last month for a school-year-long family adventure. Although we all still consider Santa Cruz our home, we decided that the timing was right to shake things up a little bit in...

Plans vs. FlowI have learned a lot about myself in the last 7 months of living in Hawaii. One thing I have learned is that my New Yorker roots run deep. I grew up just outside of Manhattan and I was trained to plan things far in advance because...

Sessions via Skype/FaceTime/PhoneOver the last few years I have been conducting more and more sessions via Skype, FaceTime, and phone. Most of my new clients are referrals from other healers or from my existing clients. They refer people to me...

Hot/Cold RelationshipsHave you ever been in a relationship that at times seems to nurture you and at times seems to leave you wanting? Hot/cold. Push/pull. On-again/off-again. Most of us have struggled with a relationship with someone who would...

Listen to Your Body's WhisperI have been working as a therapist with clients at least 3 days per week for the last 17 years. My hope is that 17 years will seem like a short time by the end of my career as a therapist, but from where I sit now...

Heart Connection for CouplesI often think about what makes a marriage great. I have helped many couples fine-tune their relationships over the last 16 years, and the conclusion I have come to is that couples that have great relationships...

When Cancer Calls, Choose LoveWe don't get to decide when illness comes knocking at our door. None of us would sign up for the wild ride of cancer or any other illness if we had the choice. When cancer came knocking at my house last year, I had...

Gratitude Gives LifeAs the cooler temperature and the darkness nudge me inside more often, I find myself spending more time with my family. My three kids are incredibly good playmates with one another, which means there is rarely a dull moment...