The Attitude of Gratitude: Cleaning Up Your Thoughts

The Attitude of Gratitude: Cleaning Up Your Thoughts

Our culture seems to be amazingly proficient at teaching us to be dissatisfied with who we are and what we have. In the spirit of wanting us to spend more money in order to continue to fuel growth in our economy, a constant feeling of lack is needed. We are bombarded...
The Wisdom of the “Uh Oh” Feeling

The Wisdom of the “Uh Oh” Feeling

One concept that I loved teaching when I used to teach self-defense many years ago was the “uh oh” feeling. We all know the feeling when something doesn’t feel quite right and our intuition says “uh oh.” When teaching self-defense we always taught that this intuitive...
Resentment as a Form of Envy

Resentment as a Form of Envy

Take a moment to give some thought to a resentment that you have felt, whether you currently feel it in a relationship or whether you have felt it in the past. What caused the resentment? What did it feel like? Let me give an example from clients I have worked with in...
Retiring the Evil Eye

Retiring the Evil Eye

I grew up in New York and I lived in New York City before moving West in my twenties. As a child I was literally taught how to glare at people to let them know that they couldn’t take advantage of me. My family called it the “evil eye.” I was taught that if I smiled...
Empowering Relationships

Empowering Relationships

Power dynamics in relationships are endlessly fascinating to me. Think of someone in your life who triggers you and leaves you feeling “less than” when you are in their presence. Now think of someone in your life who listens to you and leaves you feeling seen and...