The Wisdom of the “Uh Oh” Feeling

The Wisdom of the “Uh Oh” Feeling

One concept that I loved teaching when I used to teach self-defense many years ago was the “uh oh” feeling. We all know the feeling when something doesn’t feel quite right and our intuition says “uh oh.” When teaching self-defense we always taught that this intuitive...
Resentment as a Form of Envy

Resentment as a Form of Envy

Take a moment to give some thought to a resentment that you have felt, whether you currently feel it in a relationship or whether you have felt it in the past. What caused the resentment? What did it feel like? Let me give an example from clients I have worked with in...
Retiring the Evil Eye

Retiring the Evil Eye

I grew up in New York and I lived in New York City before moving West in my twenties. As a child I was literally taught how to glare at people to let them know that they couldn’t take advantage of me. My family called it the “evil eye.” I was taught that if I smiled...
Empowering Relationships

Empowering Relationships

Power dynamics in relationships are endlessly fascinating to me. Think of someone in your life who triggers you and leaves you feeling “less than” when you are in their presence. Now think of someone in your life who listens to you and leaves you feeling seen and...
To the Darkness on the Winter Solstice

To the Darkness on the Winter Solstice

On this darkest day of the year, I feel compelled to write. I haven’t sent out a newsletter in over a year. I have been riding the rollercoaster of hope and despair as we navigate our way through this pandemic and through this time of divisiveness in our country and...
Trust in the Time of COVID

Trust in the Time of COVID

Anxiety is at an all-time high in our country and in our world.  The reports about mental health are just as overwhelming as the reports about the physical devastation that can be caused by the COVID-19 virus.  Having an invisible virus that could harm you potentially...